タリン・サザンのインスタグラム(tarynsouthern) - 10月12日 03時39分

SHIFTING THE FRAME.

Things like unjust parking tickets used to frustrate me immensely (in LA - it’s easy to find yourself accumulating them.) I would let them sit on the counter for weeks --- which would, of course, just add a subtle backdrop of consternation to my day.

After many years, I developed an awareness of this programmed response and began to shift my mental framework. I started thinking of parking tickets as I would any other “life tax.” Life taxes are things like the physical and emotional costs of missing a flight, a broken down car, a sky-high electric bill, a sudden illness - all unexpected, inconvenient, unfair “taxes” we all pay, at some point, for some reason, and somewhat regularly, throughout life. Life taxes are the sunk costs associated with being alive.

Ah. The gift of aliveness. A beautiful gift. But it’s not cheap, is it?

In this framework, little annoyances like parking tickets (or big annoyances - like a lost job!) feel more manageable. Perhaps, even, become sources of gratitude.

Now when I spot a seed of frustration from an unexpected life tax, I’ll cheekily say something to myself like, “Thank you life tax fairy, for reminding me I’m alive.”

In the case of a parking ticket, I will then pay it right away and add something like “Oh, and thanks for reminding me to be a more diligent driver.” Because why not take some responsibility in the matter? 🤓

The shift in frame results in a completely different emotional response and behavior.

This is what the process of reprogramming looks like unfolding in real time...and it’s something that I’ll be talking more about in greater detail in my upcoming email newsletter and podcast. I hope these little nuggets are helpful, however small.

What are the life taxes you’re willing to let go of today?
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