マット・マクゴリーのインスタグラム(mattmcgorry) - 9月19日 04時10分

One of the most powerful tools for this is telling the other person, “the story I’m telling myself is…”.

It creates the room for them to add more context and doesn’t paint my interpretation as objective truth, which invites them to share their experience of the situation.

This creates more room for dialogue rather than feeling like accusations or blaming to the other person ala “you don’t care about me” or “you’re selfish.”

An alternative is, “the story I’m telling myself is that you did this thing on purpose because you don’t care about me. Can you help me understand what I may be missing or misinterpreting?”

And I learned “the story I’m making up…” framing from @brenebrown 🙏🏼💜🙏🏼

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