タリン・サザンさんのインスタグラム写真 - (タリン・サザンInstagram)「This photo was taken on Thanksgiving 2019, the same day I moved out of the home I’d shared for 3+ years with my former partner. It was raining and bitter cold, odd for LA, and a forceful reminder that no one is immune from the tidal waves of change and loss. While my body still ached from chemo and surgery, my heart ached even more from the shock of losing someone I had loved to the greatest depths. Just two months earlier I had been planning a wedding, only to find myself suddenly waking up alone, feeling into the terror of empty quiet, and accepting a vastly uncertain new future. As it turns out, the body is amazingly efficient in its approach to healing. The heart and mind are different. It’s a longer process, and one that doesn’t take a straight line. It’s been exactly one year since that painful week. I’ll admit I’ve been anticipating/avoiding the creeping sadness that often accompanies a holiday spent alone. Perhaps this week isn’t what I’d imagined for myself a little more than a year ago, but I am fortunate to be able to celebrate good health with good friends...and that is everything. If I can impart a few words of wisdom from many hours of therapy 🤪, it’s normal to feel more sad and alone than usual over the holidays. Feel all the feelings. Pour your heart out on paper. Offer yourself compassion, like a mother would for a child. Call a friend. Know that there are others out there, feeling the same. And then, when you feel the pain start to subside, search for a perspective wherein you might be able to see your situation a bit differently. A perspective that has a happy ending. It may not be within easy reach, but it will bring comfort all the same. With love, T」11月28日 8時17分