Ashley Jamesさんのインスタグラム動画 - (Ashley JamesInstagram)「I love being a mum. Moments like this right here - just in my PJs in the playroom with the kids. Playing with Alf and seeing his imagination come to life. The way Ada looks at her brother. Alf being affectionate to his sister. This is when I feel so lucky It's a funny thing to hear myself say it. Because for years I didn't want to be a mum. And then I really struggled with identity and felt like I just wasn't someone made to be a mum. I missed my life so much I regretted being a mum - although of course I loved Alf and would never wish him away. That guilt. But now, I just love it. And I love it even more getting to do things like last night - being behind the decks. But then waking up to slow mornings with my babies. I keep saying it but I feel I'm really in my mum era. I just accepting it and going with the flow. It's funny to me now thinking I used to say that I wasn't maternal. There's a thing I learned in coaching called limiting beliefs. It's all the things we believe about ourselves that aren't necessarily true. Usually we have been lead to believe them about ourselves from others around us. "I'm not maternal" could be a limiting belief. But also, "I'm not successful", "I'm not good at X". It's funny how these beliefs sort of shape us. Ok, I'm maybe not maternal in the sense that I'm not the type to love baby classes and who wants to hang around kids all the time. But I've always felt so connected to my babies. I've always trusted my gut and had a strong sense of maternal instinct. I don't get caught up on what I should be doing when, I just trust myself. I have always known I'm a really good mum. It's funny now thinking I wasn't maternal because I've always loved people and animals deeply. Anyway, I still strongly believe that you can be complete with or without children. But for my own personal journey, I love where I am right now! Anyway, if you're in the thick of it, or maybe waiting for life to come back to normal, just know - it gets really good. 💓 I hope you guys all have a good weekend. ❤️🫶 PS: you can love being a mum but also hate certain aspects of parenting and you shouldn't feel any guilt about that. 🤪💓」9月22日 22時48分